My lovely daughter is 11. She's officially a preteen (at least she's in the preteen class at church and went to preteen week at church camp). So as we all remember those years can be full of transition and all the angst a young person could possibly dream of. I thought I had more time. I thought it'd be while before we were dealing with the wonders of puberty/insecurities/body image/fashion. But no. She's entering the 6th grade and I remember very little drama about 6th grade. I do remember it was the first time we had a Girl's Locker Room and I realized that I had really big feet.
At camp this year Savannah was in a cabin with mostly 12 year olds because her cousin who is 14 was with her. So instead of putting Savannah is a cabin with her cousin and 14 year olds or putting my niece into a cabin with 11 year olds they split the difference. Anyway, every other girl in her cabin wears makeup. Yep, make up and every day. So, she comes to me and asks if she can wear make up. What?!?!? I'm not quite sure I'm ready for this. I mean, she's just a baby! Yesterday, she was in preschool. The day before that she was in diapers. I'm not old enought to have a daughter who wears makeup. I'm only 29! Really!!!
So I relented at camp and said that for the Social she could wear makeup. It's sort of a dance (really it isn't a sorta dance, it's a dance-dance). Some parents are a little uncomfortable with the idea of a dance at church camp but not me. They had a blast and the boys and girls actually get a little hang out time. They were not allowed to have "dates" but could have fun with each other. So I was finishing up in the kitchen at camp and here come the kids to have their fun. In walks Savannah. She's wearing eyeliner and eye shadow. She's flossed and glossed and brushed and shined. She was sooo cute. She had more on than I would have liked but she looked cute. She did not look like a hoochie Momma! All the counselors were teenage kids and they were watching and waiting to see if I was gonna flip out. Nah! It's all good! Then they were watching for my husband (who was also at camp and working in the kitchen with me). Is he gonna be one of those dad's who doesn't want to see his little girl looking grown up..... They just knew that they were gonna get in trouble or something for letting the other girls "make her over". Nah! We just gushed about how pretty she was and I think Daddy took a picture.
Since coming home from camp. We've "played" make up several times. Hmmm. I've been asked about when/how to use mascara-eyelash curler-concealer. (like she has anything to conceal! Puhleeze!!) I've been asked what foundation is for. Hmmm. So I think, that maybe she's more interested in makeup than she'll outright admit.
I've started wondering then...How old are girls when they start wearing makeup these days. In my days, I wasn't allowed to wear any until I was 14. I was a freshman in high school. But now, girls are doing these things so much earlier. I don't want to be that mom that says. I didn't until I was in high school, so you can't. I also don't want to be that mom, that says sure anything goes. I want to be perfect. Since that's not gonna happen, I'm wondering those of you out there in blogland. What do you think. How young is too young? What would you do? Or better yet if you have girls and they are makeup age, what did you do?